Planning a bachelorette party can be a little bit stressful! If you're not the bride and are planning it for her, then you're probably nervous about making everything perfect for her. If you are the bride and you're planning your own bachelorette party, then you are most likely very stressed between planning the wedding and the bachelorette party!
No worries — we have all of the steps and tips that you need to plan the perfect bachelorette party!
Steps to Planning the Perfect Bachelorette Party
Here are our overall steps to planning a bachelorette party! Keep in mind that this is just a guideline, and everyone will have different ways of planning. If you're stuck, this could be a great place to start!
1. Create the guest list
One of the first things that you'll want to do is figure out who will be coming. This is likely something that you'll need to talk to the bride about, unless you are 100% certain on who she wants there (as in, you've already talked about it).
The reason that you'll want to determine this first is because it will have a huge impact on the type of bachelorette party that you'll have. If there are only a couple of girls going, you may want to keep things more low-key. If you have a lot of girls going, you'll want to make sure that you have enough beds for everyone.
2. Decide where to go
Next, you'll need to choose a location. A lot of factors will go into this!
It all depends on the vibe that you're going for, what climate you're looking at, and what activities you want to do. It also depends if you're just having one night of dinner and drinks, or a long weekend getaway that requires hopping on a plane! You'll need to decide the vibe of the bachelorette party before deciding where to go.
Once you have decided what you want to do, it's time to decide where to do it. Did you decide on a long weekend getaway? You'll need to decide if you want somewhere tropical, or a cabin in the mountains. Did you decide that you just want a casual night spent with friends drinking and playing board games? You'll have to choose a house, or hotel to hold the party at.
3. Choose a date
Now that you have the location nailed down, it's time to choose a date!
First, you'll want to get two to four dates that would work well for the bride. From there, poll all of the guests (we suggest using doodle.com) and find out which dates will and will not work for each of them.
Then, you can narrow down the date that works best for everyone!
4. Book accommodations (if necessary)
If you are booking a getaway, you'll need to book your accommodations. Whether you're renting an airbnb or few hotel rooms, this is crucial to planning! Everyone will want to know how much they owe, so be sure to find out everyone's ideal budget before you choose lodging.
5. Plan activities
Now that you know where and when the bachelorette party is, it's time to plan some activities! Some activities might require reservations (like parasailing or candle making), so you'll want to go ahead and get those booked. Try not to over-schedule and make sure that the bride would enjoy the activities that you are choosing!
6. Plan meals & make reservations
Now that you've planned all of the activities, you might as well go ahead and finish up the bachelorette party timeline by planning meals! You'll also want to book any necessary reservations. This is especially important if you have a large group — you'll want to make sure that the location can accommodate your party.
7. Confirm attendees
Once your about four months ahead of the scheduled trip/party, you likely have a good idea of costs of everything. You'll want to relay them to each of the invited guests and confirm whether or not they'll be attending. Make sure to tell them the date that they need to back out by in order for them to not have to pay!
8. Get ready!
Now, get ready to have some fun! At this point, you have all of the major planning out of the way. You'll want to get any last minute checklist items finished up, like buying favors or decorations. If you're doing a getaway, it's time to pack and remember to have FUN!
Overall Tips for Planning a Bachelorette Party
Now that you have the steps to planning a bachelorette party, here are some of our overall tips for planning!
Who should throw a bachelorette party?
Traditionally, the maid of honor or a group of bridesmaids will throw the bachelorette party. However, there are really no set rules about this. The bride herself could even plan it if she really wants to! However, wedding planning is so stressful that we really suggest having someone else take the reins on this if it's possible.
Remember that too many opinions can become overwhelming and make it more difficult to plan. We suggest having one or two people head the planning of the bachelorette party... but that doesn't mean that they can't ask for help! Whoever is throwing the party can always ask someone to take care of decorations, another to take care of booking the restaurant reservations, etc.
When should the bachelorette party be?
This all depends on what you're looking to do for the bachelorette party and when the wedding is. There are really no set rules on when it should be, but most bachelorette parties happen a month or two before the wedding.
Should the bride be involved with planning?
If she wants to be, then sure! But like we mentioned before, wedding planning is stressful, so it may be more helpful to have someone else take charge of planning the bachelorette party.
However, if someone else is doing the planning, it's important to talk to the bride before you start about what she's envisioning. Does she want a weekend full of bars and clubs? Or does she want something way more low-key, like dinner and a slumber party-esque night?
If you're close enough to the bride to be planning her bachelorette, then you most likely already know what she would and wouldn't want. However, you never know and it's always better to ask first than to just assume!
Who gets invited?
This can vary. Typically, it is just the bridal party. However, some brides prefer parents to be there (mother and future mother-in-law). Some even prefer to have close friends or family that aren't in the bridal party. It's best to ask the bride before you start planning who she would like to have there!
Who pays for everything?
This really depends. Typically, everyone will pay for their own lodging, transportation, and meals. It used to be traditional to have everyone split the cost for the bride, however, that was back when bachelorette parties were much smaller. Unless someone is willing to foot the bride's entire bill, we recommend agreeing to pay for one thing for her, whether that be transportation, lodging, or a nice meal.
Most importantly, do not underestimate the cost of a bachelorette party. If you're going all out, it can get very expensive! Keep in mind that there is a possibility of someone not being able to afford what you're planning, so be understanding. If that does happen, the bride will need to decide if she'd rather have the bachelorette party of her dreams or change things around so that everyone can be there.
How much should be scheduled?
It's completely up to you! Some brides might want something more relaxed, like just spending most of the time on the beach. Others may want a ton of activities! Keep in mind though, don't over-schedule. There is always a possibility of people being late while getting ready, the weather delaying plans, etc. If you over-schedule, you risk things having to be cancelled!
How can we involve the bride's fiance?
Some people choose the involve the bride's fiance during the bachelorette party, which we think is so fun! This could be getting a gift or card from him to have the bride open during the trip, or having a surprise video from him!